Accessing Safety in "Uncertain Times"
Hearing the phrase “uncertain times” sounds like nails on a chalk-board & honestly makes me want to scream. Is anyone else with me?
There is no certainty. I don’t know what the future holds but the truth is, I never have known & neither has anyone else.
In a way, this global admittance of uncertainty has allowed me to breathe a real sigh of relief.
Wow, I don’t know. You don’t know. She doesn’t know. He doesn’t know. They don’t know. No one knows.
It’s been so humanizing.
In the past, I’ve put people on a pedestal. I knew I didn’t know, but I thought other people had it figured out.
However, during the last 6+ months, as I’ve turned to these people to find answers, the truth is that things are as uncertain to them as they are to me.
To see the leaders of universities & governments & doctors & public figures admit their not knowing (their humanity) has been so interesting.
This is a collective experience.
I’m curious, how are you responding to the uncertainty?
Can you allow it to be a little exciting?
Is there any pleasure in this new way of being?
Are there any areas where you are still gripping onto old reality?
What would it feel like to let go & embrace what’s here now?
I love an organized timeline, a plan, a schedule, a goal.
For me, not knowing sometimes doesn’t feel safe. It feels out of control. Do you feel that way, too?
Looking back, I realize that at the beginning of the pandemic I leaned in hard to old coping mechanisms of feeling safe. I actually completed pre-requisites, applied to graduate school, got in, & starting planning a move to Colorado! I was feeling desperate for a plan, for a schedule, a time-line, for external validation. I realized that that wasn’t the right move for me & that’s a story for another day, but I wonder if you might have leaned into your old coping mechanisms too?
I want to feel safe. It’s impossible for me to know. So how can I access safety in not knowing? For me, it’s meditation, mindfulness, ritual, nature, connection, & expression.
I’d love to know, how are you accessing safety as you navigate the ever-present uncertainty of being human?